To me what’s just as disappointing as the CA decision on Prop 8 are the glbt people who’s mantra seems to be: “Too bad, but I don’t agree with marriage anyway. We need to focus our attention somewhere else.”
Now, they say “we” as in the general glbt community. But what they mean is “you who were all hot for marriage need to forget that and do x,y,z because I think there are more important things in the world.”
Believe what you want to believe and fight for what you want to fight for–but what’s the deal with belittling another person’s causes/fights? Yes, I know there were/are some same sex marriage activists who have no problem telling others that theirs is the only cause worth fighting for–they are wrong, too.
You feel a calling to tackle injustice in prisons? You want to focus on health care reform? The quest for economic justice is the driving force in your life? Who is stopping you from organizing, rallying, and taking action with those who think like you?
This whole “we need to spend resources on something else” sounds like YOU are waiting around for other people to take up your cause before you do anything. Or you are frustrated because you can’t get some attention paid to your cause. You do realize that telling someone, especially after a setback, “your cause is stupid, you should really care about this” — is NOT going to entice that person to support your causes?
What if after a state banned adoption by gay couples, glbt people who didn’t want to adopt said, “Too bad, but not all of us want to adopt children anyway. In fact, glbt people who adopt are just trying to fit into the hetero couple with 2.5 kids model. We should drop gay adoption as a cause…” Coldhearted, isn”t it?
The whole “you need to drop your cause” thing is also insulting because it assumes that people can’t take up multiple issues at the same time. Being an advocate for same-sex marriage doesn’t mean that you can’t rally/organize for economic justice. Newsflash–you can fight for new environmental policies to help green the ghetto and still lobby congress for prison reform.
If you’re shoulder deep in fighting for your cause but you can’t seem to get the media to pay attention, the answer is to step up your publicity game. If you need more talent, more funds, more volunteers, you need to win people to your cause–and you don’t win allies by telling people “I don’t care about what you care about, you need to be about this.”
Whew! Now back to my regularly scheduled procrastinating.